If your love story has come to an end, it’s natural to shed a few tears, have some regrets, and wallow in your hurt – well, for a while at least. No one wants to experience rejection of the romantic kind. If your partner cheated on you or was unexpectedly dumped, emotional healing needs to occur before you are ready to love again.
After a break-up, you must take a timeout to honor yourself first. Diving straight into another relationship on the rebound will only cause you more heartache in the long run. You may also realize that you’re stuck in a cycle of repeating the same relationship lessons over and over again.
Honoring yourself when love breaks down is quite simply the best thing that you can do…
How to move on after a breakup
Your attitude to the break-up creates the foundation for emotional healing. If you can accept that some relationships are not meant to last, your healing will be a much quicker process. Not all love relationships are destined to go the distance and last a ‘lifetime.’ Some connections have a ‘season’ lifespan, while others appear in your life for a specific ‘reason.’
If you have a positive can-do attitude and a healthy outlook on love, you’ll be more able to accept that ‘everything happens for a reason willingly.’ Even though it may not initially appear so, your breakup happened for your personal growth – so that you could learn things about yourself and evolve into a stronger, better version of yourself.
Acknowledge Your Unique Perfection
Once you’ve had your ugly cry, it’s time to take a look in the mirror to acknowledge your unique perfection. Yes, you should honor yourself first, before you dwell on imperfections. The Ex who dumped you didn’t have the vision and ability to see what a truly awesome human being you are.
Get up close and personal, and look deep into your soul. Even if you have what you consider imperfections, they are an essential part of who you are. If you find this exercise a little uncomfortable, you can meditate in a tranquil place and connect to your authentic self.
Ways to honor yourself
It’s easy to get caught up in the whirlwind of emotions when you’re in love and to lose yourself in the process. When this happens, the object of your affection becomes your entire world, and you neglect to honor yourself first. Having put this person on a pedestal has turned you into a people pleaser who has forgotten how to practice self-love.
Put yourself first and consider your own emotional and physical needs:
- Do things that make you feel happy, uplifted, and rejuvenated.
- Treat yourself with the same respect that you freely show others. Always honor yourself.
- Release blocks of emotions by expressing yourself through activities you love, like dancing, singing, and creating art, cooking, or physical exercise.
- Schedule a weekly solo date night so that you can spoil yourself with pampering treats, your favorite food, and a feel-good movie.
When you learn how to fall in love with yourself, you’ll happily enjoy your free and single status.
How to live life after a breakup
Once you’ve done the inner work to let go of heartache and you regularly practice self-love, you may decide that it’s time to reinvent yourself. You may want to redefine your fashion sense, change your hair color or style, or alter other aspects of your appearance to feel physically aligned with the new version of you. You should honor yourself first.
Don’t be surprised if you find that your elevated self-confidence attracts potential suitors offering love and romance.